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Our Sex Life Became Routine: How Predictability Quietly Kills Desire

Routine kills desire because wanting depends on anticipation, and a fully predictable script removes anything to anticipate. Restoring desire means changing the encounter itself — timing, initiation, order and duration — rather than only increasing frequency.

Deep Dive · 5 min read · 1,100 words

DesireSeptember 2026

Why Don't I Want Sex With My Partner Anymore?

Not wanting sex with your partner anymore usually has one of three causes: your desire has dropped overall, it is intact but blocked by something specific between you, or the sex on offer is no longer worth wanting. Which one it is determines what actually helps.

Deep Dive · 6 min read · 1,250 words