The Intimacy Archivesby Coach Nikki

Weekly practice

Your weekly closeness check-in

Five questions about the week you actually had — not the one you meant to have. Each answer scores your closeness out of 100 and adds a point to your trend, so you can see whether the distance is closing or quietly widening.

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1 of 5 · Feeling seen

This week, how often did you feel actually known by your partner — not just managed?

2 of 5 · Saying the true thing

When something bothered you, did you say it out loud instead of filing it away?

3 of 5 · Touch without an agenda

How much non-goal touch happened — hands, backs, sitting close, no expectation attached?

4 of 5 · Repair after friction

After tension this week, did one of you come back and close the loop?

5 of 5 · Wanting, not performing

When intimacy came up, how much of it came from wanting rather than from obligation or scorekeeping?

0 of 5 answered

Where the low scores come from

If the same line keeps sinking, the pattern behind it usually has a name. Run a diagnostic to find it, or read How to Feel Close Again After Months of Emotional Distance.