How often do you currently watch porn?

Rarely, occasionally, or not at all

When you finish watching porn, how do you typically feel?

Drained, guilty, or emotionally flat

Relieved but a little disconnected

Energized, inspired, or creatively aroused

When you're aroused during solo play, what imagery drives your fantasies?

Porn scenes or specific porn actors

Porn-like scenarios, customized in my mind

Personal memories, connection, or creative fantasy

Emotional or sensory imaginings unrelated to porn

Have you ever struggled to orgasm without porn stimulation?

Frequently — it feels impossible without it

Occasionally, especially when stressed

Rarely — it's not a big problem

Never — I can orgasm without porn easily

How much time do you spend browsing for the “right” clip?

15+ minutes searching every time

I rarely browse — I'm intentional about it

In a sexual encounter with a real partner, do you mentally replay porn scenes?

Often — I need it to stay aroused

Rarely — it pops in but I stay present

Never — I'm fully focused on my partner

Has your porn use ever affected your interest in real-life sex?

Yes, I feel less motivated or connected

Sometimes, depending on stress levels

Not significantly, but I notice slight differences

No — if anything, it enhances my real sex life

If you set a goal to pause porn for a week, how confident are you that you'd succeed?

Not confident — I'd struggle hard

Somewhat confident, but it would be tough

Confident — I'd manage with effort

Very confident — I could easily do it

How intentional are you about what you consume (ethical sources, consent portrayal)?

I never think about it — I watch whatever

I usually try to choose mindfully

Very intentional — I seek out ethical or sensual erotica

Ideally, what role would you like porn to play going forward?

I'd like to use it much less — or not at all

I'd like better balance with conscious use

I'm okay with occasional use without guilt

I enjoy it as an intentional erotic tool and plan to keep it

The Intimacy Archivesby Coach Nikki

10 questions · 5 min · answers stay in your browser

Is Porn Helping or Hurting Your Sex Life?

An honest audit — no shame, no verdict on porn itself.

Ten questions about frequency, arousal templates, searching, presence with a partner, and what you actually want porn to do for you. The result tells you where your use sits right now.

Answer for the version of you that actually showed up last time — not the partner you plan to be. Vague answers produce a vague read; honest ones produce something you can use tonight.

What you get at the end

A written read on your intimate life — not a personality badge

Your answers are turned into a specific pattern summary: what you reliably do when closeness raises the stakes, the exact moments where you did it, what it costs you, and the one move to change first. You can print it, download it, or send yourself the link. Possible reads: The Overstimulated Seeker, The Cautious Watcher, The Mindful Consumer, or The Erotic Curator.

Example excerpt · not your result

Anxious — 9 of 14 answers

“Nine of your fourteen answers landed in the same place, which is unusually consistent. This is not a mood you are in — it is the default your intimate life is currently organized around. It showed up most clearly in the hour after a text went unanswered, and in what you did the last time sex was declined.”

The move that keeps it running: pursuit under fear. Name the feeling once, plainly, then let it sit for an hour without a second bid.

Reading that pairs with this quiz

Pleasure & Arousal — What the body is actually reporting, and how the performance script gets in the way of sensation.
Confidence & Performance Anxiety — Performance anxiety, erection changes, spectatoring, and the shame underneath all of it.