The body deserves better information
Arousal, anatomy, and unlearning the performance scripts that get in the way of feeling good.
2 articles · 2 min of reading · 1 cluster
Part of the Pleasure & Arousal cluster
What the body is actually reporting, and how the performance script gets in the way of sensation.
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Continue across the library: Confidence & Performance Anxiety · Desire & Libido
Physical response is not consent, interest, or proof of anything.
Genital response and subjective desire correlate far less than people assume. Understanding that gap resolves a surprising amount of confusion and shame.
Coach Nikki · Foundations · 1 min read · 171 words
Each cluster gathers the articles that answer one question from several angles, anchored to a chapter of The Ultimate Guide to Modern Intimacy.
Pleasure & Arousal
What the body is actually reporting, and how the performance script gets in the way of sensation.
Genital response and subjective desire correlate far less than people assume. Understanding that gap resolves a surprising amount of confusion and shame.
Foundations · 1 min read · 171 words
Many people are not having bad sex. They are performing adequate sex while paying almost no attention to sensation. Here is how the script forms, and how to put it down.
Deep Dive · 1 min read · 158 words
Desire
10 articles · Why wanting works the way it does
Communication
6 articles · Saying the hard thing well
Intimacy
7 articles · Closeness beyond the bedroom
Confidence
11 articles · Being in your body without apology
Repair & Reconnection
4 articles · After distance, rupture, or drift
Relationships
10 articles · The patterns that hold a couple together